Ira and Kabir on the terrace of a lake palace at dusk, the water lit gold behind them

शुभ विवाह

With the blessings of the Deshmukh and Malhotra families

Ira&Kabir

Ira Deshmukh and Kabir Malhotra are getting married

12–14 February 2027 · Jag Niwas Bagh, Udaipur

until the pheras, 13 February at 7:00 pm IST

The wedding ceremony begins on 13 February 2027 at 7:00 pm India time.

Reply by 15 December See the events

How we met

The short version, for the relatives who keep asking.

  1. 2019

    Seat 42, Deccan Queen

    July, Pune to Mumbai

    Ira had booked the window seat on the 7:15 from Pune. Kabir was already in it, with a cutting chai and no idea he was in the wrong coach. He moved, then bought her a vada pav at Lonavala to apologise.

    By Karjat we were arguing about whether Mumbai or Delhi has the better monsoon. We still haven't agreed.

  2. 2020–24

    Sundays at eleven

    Mumbai and Delhi

    Kabir went back to Delhi for work and Ira stayed in Mumbai to build her architecture practice. For four years we kept one call every Sunday at eleven: one of us cooked while the other read out the recipe.

    We got through his nani's rajma, her aaji's sabudana khichdi and one sourdough loaf that didn't work.

  3. 2025

    The steps at Fateh Sagar

    November, Udaipur

    Ira was in Udaipur sketching old havelis for a restoration project. Kabir flew in for the weekend, woke her at 5:30 to see the lake, and proposed on the ghat steps with a boatman waiting nearby.

    She said yes before he finished the question. So we're getting married in Udaipur.

Our wedding invitation laid flat with marigold petals, a wax seal and a silk ribbon
The invitation, hand-lettered by Ira's sister Mrunal. She did all 340 of them.

Five events over three days

Everything happens at Jag Niwas Bagh, so you won't need a car once you're here. All times are IST.

  1. Friday, 12 February

    2:00 pm onwards

    The Bagh lawns, under the neem trees

    मेहंदी

    Mehendi

    Henna, chaat counters and a dholki, with Ira's aunts leading the songs. Stay as long as your henna needs to dry.

    Dress code: greens and yellows in light cotton. Flat shoes, please, as it's all on grass.

  2. Friday, 12 February

    8:00 pm till late

    Darbar Hall

    संगीत

    Sangeet

    Both families have been rehearsing since October. After the performances, the dance floor is open to everyone.

    Dress code: Indo-western or cocktail. Sequins welcome, comfortable shoes essential.

  3. Saturday, 13 February

    10:00 am

    The pool courtyard

    हल्दी

    Haldi

    A small morning with close family. Turmeric for the two of us, and likely for anyone standing nearby. Brunch afterwards.

    Dress code: white or pale yellow, in something you won't mind if it stains.

  4. Saturday, 13 February

    Pheras at 7:00 pm

    The mandap on the water

    विवाह

    Wedding

    Kabir's baraat leaves the main gate at 5:30 pm, so come early if you want to dance with it. The pheras begin at seven, with dinner on the lawns after.

    Dress code: traditional Indian formal in jewel tones. Please leave red to the bride.

  5. Sunday, 14 February

    7:30 pm

    The lake terrace

    स्वागत समारोह

    Reception

    A quieter last evening: dinner on the terrace, a few short speeches and the lake lit up once more before everyone flies home.

    Dress code: black tie or Indian formal. It gets cold by the water after dark, so bring a shawl.

Getting to Udaipur

If anything here doesn't work for you, tell us in your RSVP and we'll sort it out.

Flying in

The nearest airport is Maharana Pratap Airport (UDR) at Dabok, 24 km from the venue and about 45 minutes by road. There are direct flights from Mumbai, Delhi and Bengaluru. If you can, land by midday on 12 February so you don't miss the Mehendi.

Where to stay

We've held rooms for the nights of 11 to 14 February at three places. Quote IRAKABIR27 when you book, before 10 December 2026.

  • Jag Niwas BaghAt the venue, held for family first
  • Saraswati Haveli6 minutes by shuttle
  • The Pichola Courtyard10 minutes by shuttle
Shuttles

Our shuttles meet every flight landing on 11 and 12 February. Add your flight number to the note in your RSVP. On event days they loop between all three hotels and the venue every 30 minutes, and the last one back leaves at 1:30 am.

The wedding mandap at Jag Niwas Bagh, draped in marigold garlands beside the lake
The mandap at Jag Niwas Bagh, on the western shore of Lake Pichola.

RSVP

Please reply by 15 December

So we can book the right number of rooms, shuttles and chairs. One reply per family is perfect.

Coming to some events and not others is completely fine. Just tick the ones you can make.

Plans changed? Send the form again and we'll keep the latest reply.

आपकी प्रतीक्षा रहेगी

Guests, including you
2

Up to six per invitation. Children count too.

Which events can you make?

This is a sample design. Nothing is sent anywhere.

Questions

For anything else, ask Tanvi, Kabir's cousin. She's running the weekend and will be at the help desk in the lobby from 11 February.

Yes, very much. There's a supervised kids' room with sitters and films during the Sangeet and the Wedding, from 7 pm, so parents can stay on the dance floor.

Mid-February in Udaipur is warm and dry in the day, around 27°C, and can drop to 11°C after dark. Bring a shawl or a light jacket for the evenings by the lake.

We'd love you to put phones away for that one hour. Our photographers will share everything. At every other event, take as many as you like and tag them #IraKabirForever.

Please don't carry anything heavy on a flight for us. If you'd still like to give something, there will be a box for cards at the Reception.

All event spaces are on one level, with ramps down to the lakeside mandap. If you'd like a buggy from the gate, or a seat near the front for the pheras, mention it in your RSVP note.

Of course. Tick only the events you can come to. We'd much rather plan for the right number of people than guess.

Sample design by Codeatall